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Married lesbian trio from Massachusetts expecting first child together
by Lee Moran
Wednesday, April 23, 2014

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Kitten (left) and Brynn feel Doll Young's six-month-old baby bump. The 'throuple' eventually hope have three children. Mathew Growcoot/News Dog Media

Three women and a baby!

A married lesbian trio from Mass. is expecting its first child. Brynn, Doll and Kitten Young - who claim to the only "throuple" in the world - are expecting their newborn in just 3 months time. Doll, 30, and Brynn, 32, had been together for 2-and-a-half years when they decided to spice up their relationship with an additional partner.

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The trio at the altar on their wedding day in Aug. 2013. News Dog Media

Smitten after meeting Kitten, 27, through a threesomes' website, they decided to tie the knot to each other last August. And, after undergoing IVF with an unknown sperm donor, the youngest of the group is now with child. "The three of us have always wanted kids and wanted to grow our family," Kitten, who like Doll took IT expert Brynn's surname because she is the main breadwinner, told The Sun.

While same-sex marriage is legal in Massachusetts, polygamy is not. Despite the lack of official recognition, the three have their assets equally divided. News Dog Media/News Dog Media While same-sex marriage is legal in Massachusetts, polygamy is not. Despite the lack of official recognition, the three have their assets equally divided. "We decided that I'd be the one to carry the babies because I'd like to be a full-time mom," she added.

Massachusetts became, in 2004, the first state to legalize same-sex marriage. It does not allow polygamy, however, meaning the trio's marriage is not officially recognized. Despite this, they claim their union is the real deal.

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The trio took Brynn's second name because she is the main breadwinner. News Dog Media

"In our eyes we are married. We had specialist lawyers draw up paperwork so our assets are equally divided," said Brynn. "I cried watching Doll and Kitten walk down the aisle towards me with their dads. After we said our vows, Doll and Kitten kissed me first then each other," she added.

The trio share a bed and have sex together as well as in pairs, with Brynn working a 40-hour week to bring home the money, Doll doing the cooking and Kitten the cleaning.

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PostPosted: Mon May 05, 2014 3:31 pm 
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Jodie Foster marries girlfriend Alexandra Hedison
April 23, 2014

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LOS ANGELES (Reuters) - Jodie Foster has married her girlfriend, the photographer Alexandra Hedison, a representative for the Oscar-winning actress said on Wednesday.

E! News, which first reported the marriage, said the couple wed over the past weekend. The notoriously private Foster, 51, first acknowledged publicly that she is gay during a televised speech at the 2013 Golden Globe Awards, and referred to her "ex-partner in love" Cydney Bernard, with whom she has two sons. She joked at the time that "I already did my coming out about a thousand years ago back in the Stone Age."

Hedison, 44, who had dated comedian Ellen DeGeneres about a decade ago, is also an actress. She appeared most recently in the former Showtime series "The L Word."

(Reporting by Eric Kelsey; Editing by Piya Sinha-Roy and Grant McCool)
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PostPosted: Sun May 11, 2014 5:03 pm 
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Chinese researchers show gay men react to male sex pheromones
2 May 2014
By Andrew Potts

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Researchers at the Chinese Academy of Sciences have released the latest research suggesting that sexuality is hardwired in the human brain by showing that gay men and women react to male sex pheromones while heterosexual men ignore them.

The scientists set up an experiment in which they exposed men and women to the pheromones androstadienone (found in male sweat and semen) and estratetraenol (found in female urine). They then showed them a video animation of a person walking made up of dots marking the various joints of the body and asked to guess it was a man walking or a woman.

Heterosexual women and gay men who had been exposed to androstadienone were more likely to guess that the figure was a man, while exposure to the hormone had no effect on how heterosexual men guessed about the figure. Heterosexual men who were exposed to estratetraenol were more likely to guess the walking figure to be female while heterosexual women were not effected by exposure to the hormone. Bisexual and lesbian women were also more likely to guess the figure was a woman but the results were not as pronounced as for the gay men in the study.

The researchers, Wen Zhou, Xiaoying Yang, Kepu Chen, Peng Cai, Sheng He and Yi Jiang, published their results in the journal Cell yesterday.

‘Homosexual males exhibit a response pattern akin to that of heterosexual females, whereas bisexual or homosexual females fall in between heterosexual males and females,’ the researchers wrote in a summary of their findings. These effects are obtained despite that the olfactory stimuli are not explicitly discriminable. The results provide the first direct evidence that the two human steroids communicate opposite gender information that is differentially effective to the two sex groups based on their sexual orientation. Moreover, they demonstrate that human visual gender perception draws on subconscious chemosensory biological cues, an effect that has been hitherto unsuspected.’

Previous research by Sweden’s Karolinska Institute had shown that the hypothalamus region of the brain lights up in gay men and lesbians when they are exposed to sex pheromones of their same sex.

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Sochi-gold medal winning Canadian hockey star comes out as gay
12th June 2014
by André Rhoden-Paul

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The four time Olympic gold medallist comes out as gay

Four time Olympic gold medallist Charline Labonte has announced that she is gay in an online statement.

Speaking to OurSports, the Canadian women’s hockey goalie said: “I am gay and proudly authentic”. She struck gold at the Sochi winter games in February, where her girlfriend speed skater Anastasia Buscis was also competing.

Labonte said she was swept off her feet after meeting Anastasia through a mutual friend at a dinner. “Anastasia took me completely by surprise and I could not pass up a wonderful person like her.” On Russia’s anti-gay propaganda laws she said: “The idea of not being completely free during the Games left me with a bitter taste.”

Despite being out to her team-mates, Labonte has kept her sexuality very private. “Everyone on my team has known I’m gay since I can remember and I never felt degraded for it.”

Charline is due to finish her master’s degree in physical education later this year. Labonte’s girlfriend, long skater speed skater Anastasia Bucsis announced last year that she was joining forces with Athletes Ally a nonprofit organisation that seeks to promote respect for individuals involved in sports regardless of their sexual orientation.

She recently released a public statement saying that she was “so proud to be gay” ahead of the Sochi games, and attacked the country’s gay propaganda law.

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Gay marriage is not about equality but a way of keeping women quiet
by Julie Bindel
Monday, 16 June 2014

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Why be a wife? Two women getting married. Photograph: Alamy

Is now the best time in history to be lesbian or gay? With the introduction of the Marriage (Same Sex Couples) Act 2013, lesbians and gay men enjoy the same legislative rights as heterosexuals when married. They can foster and adopt, put same-sex names on their children's birth certificates, enjoy protection from discrimination and harassment at work and join the armed forces.

In all the celebrating and discussion of bride-on-bride fashion, no one seems to have raised any objections to the institution itself, an institution that has curtailed women's freedom for centuries.

When I was young, I wore badges and T-shirts bearing the slogan "Y B A Wife?". We were not the first feminists to critique marriage. Writers such as Sarah Fielding, Mary Hays and Mary Wollstonecraft labelled marriage during the Industrial Revolution as "little more than a state of legal prostitution", and argued that poorer women in all societies suffer the most oppression within marriage while at the same time being under more pressure to marry. So what's going on?

During the 1970s and 80s, lesbians were more likely than they are today to be part of an active women's liberation movement, during which the issue of marriage as a patriarchal institution was oft-discussed. There was the Lesbians Against the Clause group who campaigned against Clause 28 on the grounds that the heterosexual fabric of British society ought to be undermined. They produced an anti-marriage poster with the slogan: "They say marriage is a bed of roses ... beware of the pricks", and organised several conferences and seminars to discuss the issue.

But in recent years there has been a distinct lack of debate about marriage as potentially problematic for women. In contrast, there seems to be an almost total acceptance of it by lesbians today.

I wanted to find out whether I was a lone voice objecting to gay marriage and if so, why. Last September I posted two surveys on the Guardian website (and a couple of other publications) to find out what was behind the widespread desire to wed, as well as a number of other issues. In total, 5,492 participants completed a poll aimed at lesbians and gay men while 4,036 completed another aimed at heterosexuals, making it one of the most meaningful surveys of attitudes to homosexuality ever undertaken in the UK. An overwhelming 89% of the 9,528 responses (roughly split between male and female) supported equal marriage, meaning that the majority of straight respondents, as well as lesbians and gay men, support marriage for same sex couples.

The survey also found that many gay respondents have a desire for "ordinariness" and do not want to be seen as living "alternative lifestyles". A number of respondents who said "yes" to the question: "Do you support gay (equal) marriage?" added comments about how marriage will make them equal to heterosexuals, and that they were looking forward to being viewed as "the same".

Civil partnerships and marriage offer that; the latest Office for National Statistics figures show that civil partnerships in the UK reached an all-time high in 2012, with 7,037 tying the knot, and equal numbers of gay men and lesbians opting for formal coupledom. This heavy support for gay marriage comes in spite of the fact that 93.01% (gay survey) and 93.69% (straight) were aware of feminist arguments against marriage.

Nicola Barker, a senior lecturer in law at the University of Kent and the author of Not the Marrying Kind: A Feminist Critique of Same-Sex Marriage, says that she is sometimes misunderstood as being against equality as opposed to marriage. "What gets lost in the celebrations about 'equal marriage' is that marriage is not about equality; it's about perpetuating privilege," she says. "Few feminists would have been surprised by David Cameron's assertion that to support gay marriage is conservative. Same-sex marriage fits comfortably within the conservative ideology of the self-sufficient family and contributes to the politics of state austerity."

The writer Shelley Silas, who is in a civil partnership with the novelist Stella Duffy, says they both wish to convert to full marriage as soon as they are able, and that they have long referred to each other as wives and taken each other's names; "I want to be able to say the word 'married' and know it is within a legal context," says Silas.

There is, within this overwhelming support, an assumption, as some of my survey respondents and interviewees argue, that lesbian marriage somehow subverts the heterosexual, patriarchal narrative – but does it?

Isn't marriage merely a clever ploy to keep us quiet about the trickier issues such as the deportation of lesbian asylum seekers, and the still prevalent anti-gay bullying in schools and religious communities? While so many lesbians are busily getting hitched and drawing up wedding lists, while being featured in the pages of newspapers, have we lost sight of those within our community suffering in silence? A shocking 78% of lesbians and gay men have experienced prejudice during their lifetime, according to the survey, with more than a quarter of them suffering physical assault.

In her 1993 paper, Since When is Marriage a Path to Liberation?, the late Paula Ettelbrick, a US-based lesbian and human rights lawyer, came up with one of the greatest lines about state interference in relationships: "Marriage is a great institution – if you like living in institutions."

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Julie Bindel's Straight Expectations: What does it mean to be gay today? is published by Guardian Books on 26 June at £12.99. To pre-order a copy for £8.99, visit theguardian.com/bookshop or call 0330 333 6846.

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Angel Haze on Ireland Baldwin: ‘An interracial gay couple, I mean that’s just weird for America right now’
by Ella Alexander
Friday, 27 June 2014

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Angel Haze has been amused by the way the media has addressed her relationship with Ireland Baldwin.

She thinks that the press are still too shy or uncomfortable to call them gay. “I don’t know if there’s like some confirm or deny thing with the way relationships work in the media, but everyone just calls us best friends, best friends for life, like we’re just friends hanging out,” she told The Independent. “It’s funny. It’s rad in some ways, it sucks in others.”

Ireland and Haze met during New York Fashion Week through Baldwin’s cousin. They started off as friends, before getting romantically involved, informing the public about their relationship through affectionate Twitter chats and Instagram pictures of the two together.

“There are still certain limitations for women,” she said. “If we were two guys, it’d be insane, negatively insane with the attention. With us it’s all being very positive, the media are like, ‘Oh they’re so cute, they’re best friends.’ An interracial gay couple, I mean that’s just weird for America right now. We f**k and friends don’t f**k. I have never f**ked one of my friends. Once I see you in that way, it doesn’t happen. But we do f**k and it’s crazy and that’s weird to say because I think about it in terms of an audience reading it and them thinking, ‘What the hell?’ But it happens.”

The 22-year-old rapper - who is playing at Glastonbury this week - says that her new relationship has changed her endearingly pessimistic outlook. “When you find it love it definitely amends your perspective on certain things,” she said. “I was dating a guy I really liked about a year ago and being around him and realising so many things about myself totally made me hate the traditional ideas of what a relationship should be, of what romance should be. You go out and you’re searching for this Utopian feeling, butterflies; that thing where you can’t stop thinking about them. It doesn’t have to be so overwhelming.”

Source: Independent UK.

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Women take to the streets in the New York City Dyke March
29 June 2014
By James Withers

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Partcipant in the 2014 New York City Dyke March

When the drums started, the crowd cheered.

The beats started the New York City Dyke March. In 1993, the Lesbian Avengers sponsored the first such march in Washington, DC. The tradition moved to New York City and for 22 years women have taken the streets of Manhattan, the day before the official gay pride parade. It all starts at Bryant Park, near Times Square, and heads down Fifth Avenue. The procession ends in Washington Square Park in Greenwich Village, the neighborhood of the Stonewall Riots.

'It's anti-commercial. It's just us,' Loretta, a city resident said to GSN. 'We are standing more for what happened at Stonewall than the regular march. They kind of got away from it. We are grassroots. We do this every year and we're mighty.' Zowie and Zena, who were with Loretta, agreed. 'We are asserting our strength and that we are all together. And we rule,' Zowie added.

The march is not supported by corporate dollars, nor do organizers apply for a permit. For some this was their inaugural walk down Fifth Avenue. 'This is my first Dyke March,' India said to GSN. 'I came out today because this a family reunion for me. It let's me be close to the friends I've known for awhile. But also to support the cause of visibility within the queer community.'

While conceding the LGBTI equality strides made in recent years, India noted she was walking for concerns specific to race and gender. 'We can come out and support intersectional causes,' India added. Like ending the prison industrial complex...and racialized and sexualized violence.'

To see more photos, go to GSN's Facebook album.

Source: GayStarNews.

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Sara Gilbert: Dating Big Bang Theory’s Johnny Galecki made me realise I’m gay
13th September 2013
by Will Stroude

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Actress Sara Gilbert has credited her former Roseanne and Big Bang Theory co-star Johnny Galecki with helping her come out as gay.

Gilbert, who once dated Galecki, explained on her show The Talk that she would often get “depressed” whenever they kissed. She said: “I thought he was super cute and I had a total crush on him. And we started dating and he would come over and we would, like, make out, and then I would start to get depressed.” She added: “I eventually told him I thought it was about my sexuality and he was super sweet about it.”

The 38-year-old came out in 2010, having been in a relationship with TV producer Allison Adler since 2001. The couple had two children together, but separated in August 2011. “I started dating a woman who was like 18 years older than I was, who was also in the public eye. It was something people could have found out about. Like no one knew at the show for years, and Johnny held the secret the whole time. And I always felt so scared. If it came out, what could happen? Could I lose my career? Will I ever be able to play a straight role again?”

Gilbert revealed that she had contacted her friend Galecki to get his permission to discuss their relationship on TV. “I called him and I just said, ‘Is it okay I’m thinking of talking about this. The story kind of starts with you. And I’ve got to say I made out with you and got depressed, which is kind of a bummer.’ [He said] ‘Of course. I love you and I think it’s really important and I’m so proud of you. If you want, I will be there and I will hold your hand.’ It was so sweet, and this story really makes Johnny look good.” She went on to say: “I want people to know there can still be a struggle with it and that’s okay. It’s a process and there can be a part of you that doesn’t want to feel different or feel scared.”

Gilbert is currently engaged to 4 Non Blondes singer Linda Perry. The couple announced their plans to wed in April this year.

Source: PinkNews.

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Russian Lesbian Couple Requests Asylum in Buenos Aires After Getting Hitched
July 17, 2014

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Mariela Castaño Fotografía / Facebook The happy couple, following their wedding ceremony in Buenos Aires.

Two Russian brides got hitched in Argentina's capital city and then requested political asylum in the country, citing persecution back home, according to Argentina's LGBT Federation.

Marina Mironova and Oksana Timofeyeva said they chose Argentina because they wanted to live "freely and safely." They believe the Latin American country can guarantee them such a life.

Verdu Castrosin, the vice president of FALGBT, said on Tuesday that the pair first consulted the organization in late 2012, shortly after the passage of Russia's law prohibiting the promotion of a nontraditional sexual orientation among minors. Castrosin lamented the fact that Russia's laws "are becoming more extreme" regarding sexual minorities, Argentinian news portal Lavanguardia.com reported.

The two women said they chose to emigrate because they had been subjected to harassment for their sexual orientation, Castrosin said, adding that the discrimination grew more intense following the passage of the controversial law in 2012. Neither of the women speak Spanish or English and they still have a 16-year-old son back home. It remained unclear whether he would seek asylum as well.

Mironova and Timofeyeva are the first Russian lesbian couple to be married in the Latin American country.

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Film streaming site creates “Netflix for Lesbians”
21st July 2014
by Katie Dupere

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Film site Section II has been nicknamed "Netflix for Lesbians".

A new website, Section II, has created “Netflix for Lesbians” in an attempt to reach an untouched market of lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and queer women.

The site’s goal is to support the better representation of queer women in cinema by sourcing and creating films solely related to LBTQ women, housing them on the Section II website for streaming. Section II‘s name comes from the section of the Motion Picture Production Code, which outlawed lesbian characters on screen until 1968.

With about 100 films currently available on the site for streaming and download, Section II has the largest collection of LBTQ films in the world. Creator Allie Esslinger told PinkNews that the company hopes to post and contract over 200 more films in the coming months. Esslinger said: “We are super excited because we know if has always been hard to find content in general and, as gay has become more of a buzzword, it has been hard to find gay content that we are proud of within the community. We are excited to introduce these new content creators to bigger audiences. We just hope Section II will become a destination platform for people who are interested in LBTQ content and for filmmakers and content creators that can use it to get their work seen.” Though content on the site is individually priced now, Esslinger said the company is looking into different types of subscription options for the future.

Section II is currently fundraising for its full launch on the funding site Seed and Spark.



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Miss Spain comes out of closet on Instagram
22 August 2014

The winner of the 2013 Miss Spain contest, Patricia Yurena, has become the first holder of the tile to declare herself gay, posting a picture of herself with her lover in bed on the social media site Instagram.

The picture titled 'Romeo and Juliet' shows Patricia Yurena and her lover, the Spanish DJ and singer Vanesa Klein, gazing lovingly into each other eyes. Posted on Instagram on Tuesday, the photograph of the model and actress from Santa Cruz de Tenerife in Spain's Canary Islands has received plenty of positive comments and close to 4,500 likes on the site.

"I think it's a great thing for lesbians in Spain," said Judith, whose Lolo boutique in Madrid is popular with the lesbian community. "It's obviously a personal decision on the part of Patricia Yurena to come out but it means a lot to a group of people who don't get wide recognition in Spain. It's also good for society as a whole," Judith added.

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Image: Patricia Yurena/Instagram

"I don't regret what I did and I did it because I'm happy about what's going on in my life," said Patricia Yurena, speaking to local daily La Opinión de Tenerife about her decision to upload the image. "Thanks for all your comments," tweeted the two-time winner of the Miss Spain crown — in 2013 and 2008. "I published the picture completely spontaneously and in an impulsive manner. Thank you for all your support," she added.

The controversial Miss Spain beauty contest was banned for many years under Spain's fascist dictator Francisco Franco, only kicking off again in 1961. Patricia Yurena may be the last ever holder of the crown after the company running the event, Certamen Miss Espana SL, filed for bankruptcy in 2013.

Photo: Darren Decker/Miss Universe Organization/AFP
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Five famous women that history outed as lesbians
12th August 2014
by E.J. Rosetta

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Eleanor Roosevelt

Everyone loves a rumour, especially surrounding the sexuality of “straight” celebrities (*cough, Kristen Stewart, cough*) and although it’s no longer taboo to be gay or bisexual, this has not always been the case.

History is littered with speculation over certain famous figures and their sexuality. In order to be gay, even 30 years ago, involved an incredibly brave and life altering declaration. It still does, as we all know, but nowadays we’re all required to be dignified and polite to each other by law.

But you have to feel for our predecessors, in their sexless marriages with their clandestine meetings. You have to pity them, deeply. Can you imagine not being able to live authentically, out in the open?

Past generations have been suppressed for years by their peers and powers, not permitted to come out and be honest about how they wanted to live. They were very simply not allowed to feel the way they did, can you imagine how heartbreaking that must have been? We have to be grateful for the changes society has made so far, even if we have a long way to go.

No, being gay isn’t a choice, but the choice to live openly is one I am glad we now enjoy.

Looking back through the sands of time, it’s hard to name many openly gay women… They just don’t seem to exist. But the truth is they must have done. Lesbianism isn’t something that has just been invented over the past 50 years. Attitudes towards it have changed, but not the very essence. Truth is, women have been gay/bisexual for years. The only difference is that are the first generation that are allowed to live openly (almost). We get to be authentic… lucky us!

But the same cannot be said for those that have come before us. And here are a few of my favourite strong women of history who have inspired speculation surrounding their sexuality. Some are widely recognised as gay, others only rumoured. Whispers have swept through the internet after these icons have passed on, deliberating over facts and quotes, trying to find an answer. But the truth is we’ll never know, in some cases. But as it’s fun to hypothesise, here’s my list of rumoured lesbians throughout time.

1. Eleanor Roosevelt

The infamous American first lady, although married, was known to have been permitted a clandestine “Boston Marriage” by her straying husband – essentially a permitted affair – and chose reporter Lorena “Hick” Hickock

After her death, the speculation surrounding the decades-long relationship between these two unearthed a series of letters between them. Although most were destroyed by the Roosevelt family, the ones that were uncovered revealed a tender and indisputably romantic relationship between the two women. There are whole books available of the published collections. It’s undeniable.

One reads “I want to put my arms around you & kiss you at the corner of your mouth” and another “I can’t kiss you, so I kiss your picture good night and good morning” and it is said that only Hick’s sister, Ruby, knew the true content of their first years correspondence. Following Hick’s death, Ruby decided to throw the letters on the fire after reading them, declaring “this is nobody’s business”. And I say good for her. My twin sister and I have a “Clear browser history on death” agreement, and I imagine this to be the same sort of gesture.

Eleanor Roosevelt, a strong feminist, was the first First Lady to actively engage in political issues and was known to have a close group of openly lesbian friends. On Inauguration Day, Roosevelt wore a sapphire ring, given to her by Hick. In a 1933 letter, Eleanor writes “I want to put my arms around you. I ache to hold you close… Your ring is a great comfort to me. I look at it and think she does love me, or I wouldn’t be wearing it.”. Which sort of puts to bed any speculation that end, doesn’t it?

Before Eleanor, the history books record a certain famous Austrian princess whose bisexuality is also fervently rumoured…

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Marie Antoinette

2. Marie Antoinette

Arguably the most famous French female Royal, “Madame Deficit” endured a life of infamy.

People loved to hate her, blaming her from everything from the French Revolution to ruling through the King. She is famously misquoted “Let them eat cake!” when, actually, she said nothing of the sort. Still, history proves people love to hate women born into power, and her reputation doesn’t disappoint.

In those days, lesbianism was known as “The German Vice”, and the Austrian princess, as she became increasingly unpopular, was slandered by the opposition. They accused her aggressively of bisexuality and promiscuity, naming her close friends The Princess of Lamballe and The Duchess of Polignac as her lovers.

Throughout France, the population was convinced of the rumour by the publication of pamphlets picturing her in compromising positions with other women. Back then they didn’t have celebrity magazines, so Royal Gossip was circulated in leaflets, usually with a political agenda, and Marie Antoinette was a regular feature. And it’s understandable how much of France believed the rumours. The Queen had fervently remained a virgin for the first seven years of her marriage and never addressed publicly the accusations. As is the case now, if you didn’t deny it, people generally assume it’s true.

Now although we’ll never know the answer, it’s a sad thought. As Queen of a country, you’d be watched at every turn, and even in modern times, a member of the Royal Family probably simply wouldn’t be allowed to be gay. I can’t imagine how it must feel to not be able to be your true self, just because of who you were born. Luckily, me and my twin sister being gay is a favourite social topic of my mothers… she finds it fashionable and boasts at dinner parties about it. How very modern and interesting it makes her. She’s thrilled! And for that, I count myself very, very blessed.

But some parents aren’t so keen, and I imagine the mother of the Queen of France (a Royal herself) wouldn’t have found it quite so thrilling. But moving swiftly onwards, here’s a name that most have heard bounced around the lesbian rumour mill…

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Virginia Woolf

3. Virginia Woolf

Ms Woolf was every angst-ridden teenage girl’s hero when I was growing up. If you owned a pair of black cords, a Cranberries CD and any novel by Woolf, you were in. Well, not “in” actually. But I probably liked you.

Virginia Woolf met fellow writer Vita Sackville-West in the early 1922, and the women began a romantic affair that lasted for a number of years. Now I realise you can prove pretty much anything with the internet nowadays, and also disprove it, but Virginia Woolf’s bisexuality is almost impossible to argue with. Vita and her husband were both bisexual, and had an open marriage, and once Virginia’s own husband gave his blessing to the affair, the two woman began a relationship. This remained secret, but not because they were ashamed. Virginia’s publisher, Bloomsbury, held a strong opinion against lesbianism, and so their secrecy can be attributed to Virginia’s passion for her career and her writing. But although they kept their tryst on a strictly “need to know” basis, history has proven the affair without doubt.

In a letter from Virginia to Vita (Current day celebrity couple name…Virgita?) she described coming out to her sister Nessa - “I told Nessa the story of our passion in a chemists shop the other day. ‘But do you really like going to bed with women’ she said – taking her change. ‘And how’d you do it?’ and so she bought her pills to take abroad, talking as loud as a parrot.” And in another letter between the two, this excerpt - “Look here Vita — throw over your man, and we’ll go to Hampton Court and dine on the river together and walk in the garden in the moonlight and come home late and have a bottle of wine and get tipsy, and I’ll tell you all the things I have in my head, millions, myriads — They won’t stir by day, only by dark on the river. Think of that. Throw over your man, I say, and come.”

In fact, a quick Google search will pull up indisputable proof. But as there has never been a documented confession from the literary icon, it remains a romantic rumour along with the rest.

Speaking of romantic rumours, here’s one of the most controversial examples of potentially lesbian behaviour by a famous icon…

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Marilyn Monroe

4. Marilyn Monroe

OK, please don’t shout at me/sue me. As possibly the most famous sex icon in history, it’s inevitable that someone would suggest that Ms Monroe experienced both sides of the proverbial coin. With whole pockets of the internet dedicated to this debate, and handfuls of people set on proving it, Marilyn makes my list on a strictly speculative basis. It’s also a good excuse to look at pictures of her on Google.

Marilyn Monroe (pictured with Jane Russell) has been rumoured to have had sexual encounters with many of history’s more famous actresses, including Elizabeth Taylor, Joan Crawford, Barbara Stanwick, Marlene Dietrich and many more. Betty Grable reported that Monroe would pursue her, and is quoted as finding her attention “sometimes scary”. The same story is told by Judy Garland, who apparently claimed Marilyn had propositioned her on many occsions. Which answers the question “If you could be any woman in history, who would you be?”. My answer would definitely be any woman that Marilyn Monroe hit on. And I’d be very easily persuaded.

For those of you that haven’t had the time to obsessively stalk Marilyn Monroe on the internet, she was well known for her crippling insecurities and the most convincing piece of information I have seen to prove her bisexuality would be a book written by actress Jane Lawrence – “My Little Secret” – which alleges her sexual relationship with Marilyn Monroe. Of course, it can be argued that these are all lies to sell books, but they’re pretty descriptive and enjoyable lies. Here’s my favourite excerpt…

Lawrence claims that one evening, Ms Monroe suddenly kissed her on her thigh, with a ‘mischievous twinkle in her eye’. “…The next few minutes became hazy, surreal and dream-like. My pulse leaped as Marilyn kissed my thigh again… she then leaned in and kissed me full on the lips, very softly and very slowly. I was nearly hyperventilating. We moved through the living room into the bedroom,” the story continues. “Marilyn used her tongue, lavishly flicking and licking, an entirely new sensation for me. With the girls I had enjoyed sex with, there was often a shyness and hesitancy, not the hunger and confidence Marilyn displayed.”

I’ll give you a minute to re-read that... OK, moving on. There is also testimony from Jean Negulesco, director of the Monroe film How To Marry A Millionaire. ‘She told me once she had never had an orgasm with a man in her entire life,’ he said. Notably adding “with a man”. Then there’s Natasha Lytess, her acting coach. Marilyn was famously very close with Lytess, and the rumour of their affair was enthusiastically circulated once she moved into Lytess’s apartment in 1950.

Anyway, there are hundreds of stories like this, which are possibly fictional but I, personally, am hoping they’re true. And if you need any more proof, go look it up yourself. What am I, an article writer or something? Last on the list, the least credible and my personal favourite possible lesbian from history.

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Florence Nightingale

5. Florence Nightingale

Florence Nightingale grew up at Embley Park, a manor house in Romsey, Hampshire which was later converted in to a school. The school which I attended.

So you can imagine the amount of time I spent learning about Ms Nightingale’s life, family and her incredible devotion to nursing and selfless care for others. However, alongside the ghost stories (it’s a boarding school) that we used to tell each other about her past patients haunting the halls, there was also a strong belief that Florence Nightingale lived and died a secret lesbian.

Now, let me be very clear – Florence Nightingale was deeply religious and took a vow of celibacy which lasted her whole life. I am not suggesting that this woman engaged in lesbian activity (my favourite kind of activity)… only that there is evidence that, had she not committed herself to God, she may have preferred the company of women. And who can blame her? Plus, remember, you don’t have to have sex to be gay… but it probably helps.

As the story goes, Florence was very close to her aunt, with Florence describing their relationship as “Like two lovers”. OK, so let’s ignore the obvious incest vibe, for arguments sake. We all know that back then, it was common to marry a cousin and so I guess they looked at things a little differently. Although her aunt married, she returned to Embley Park when Florence became an invalid later in life to nurse her, leaving her own husband and children behind.

Earlier in life, Florence also wrote of her cousin - “I have never loved but one person with with passion in my life, and that was her…” And then there’s her own memoir, in which she wrote - “I have lived and slept in the same beds with English Countesses and Prussian farm women. No woman has excited passions among women more than I have”.

Which sort of paints her as the alpha-lesbian of her time.

The truth, however, can never be certain. In her Victorian era, it would have been unheard of for her to live her life as a gay woman, and so I suppose it is believed this is why she chose a life of celibacy, refusing four marriage proposals. I think it’s tragic almost, that one of the most remarkable and progressive women of history was denied the happiness and freedom of living openly. If ever I decided anything growing up at Embley Park, in the home of the “Lady of the Lamp”, it was to count myself lucky that I get to be who I am. Openly. Especially since her accomplishments were vast and incredibly noble, whereas the most I’ve achieved so far to help mankind is promising to stop posting daily pictures of my cat on Facebook.

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Finally, the stigma around lesbianism/bisexuality is fading into history, as this generation fights tooth and (neatly trimmed) nail to banish homophobia for good. We may be the last generation in history to have to suffer through it, as “Gay/Lesbian” becomes as important to equal rights as being black, or a woman. As in, it’s not even relevant who/what you are, how you feel or choose to live your life. All human beings are equal.

Future generations are predicted to not even blink an eye when confronted with the question of ones sexuality. It will become just another fact about a person, a part of the building blocks that makes them uniquely and deliciously them. Homophobia will be a story of history, like “Did you know that our ancestors once made black people sit at the back of buses?”. Our story will be “Can you believe it, at one time you weren’t allowed to get married if you were the same sex?! How bizarre!”.

So as we wave goodbye to prejudice and the closed minds that have now (almost) been silenced, it’s worth taking a minute to offer a respectful nod to the gay women that have come before us. To those who weren’t allowed to be gay, to those who continued to do so regardless, and to those who fought so that lesbians today can live openly. With as many cats as we want.

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Lesbian comedian delivers epic put-down to homophobic hecklers
12th August 2014
by Nick Duffy



Lesbian comedian Cameron Esposito has delivered an amazing put-down to homophobic hecklers.

The comedian came out with the epic comeback after a man heckled her at a show for looking like a lesbian.

She said: “I was walking on stage not too long ago, and before I even hit the mic, this dude sitting in the front row just yells at me ‘you look like a woman who doesn’t sleep with men!’. He yelled that at me like as if I don’t know. He yelled that at me like it was going to be a surprise, and an insult. Here’s the thing: I look like a woman who doesn’t sleep with men because I am a lesbian… and that’s one of the biggest parts. This look, this is on purpose. To attract women. So if you’re a guy out there, and you’re like ‘I’m not sure if I’m into that’, to you I say sir, there is no chance that you are less into me than I am into you.”

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Designer creates lesbian-themed emojis
12th August 2014
by Katie Dupere

If you are a smartphone user, chances are you are already overwhelmed with too many emoji options.

But one US-based designer noticed important images missing from the average smartphone library: lesbian-themed emojis. The designer, Kimberly Linn, has begun creating emojis meant for queer women and showcasing them on the Instagram account lesbianemojis.

Here are some of our favourites:

U-Haul

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Fish Taco

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Turkey Baster Baby Maker

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Home Depot

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Scissors

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Lesbian Bed Death

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Vicky Beeching, Christian rock star 'I'm gay. God loves me just the way I am'
by Patrick Strudwick
Wednesday, 13 August 2014

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Beeching says: 'I've lost so much living as a shadow of a person'. Jason Alden/The Independent

There is no quicker, more effective way to destroy someone than to isolate them. Guards at Guantanamo Bay know this. Psychiatrists know this.

Vicky Beeching, 35, British star of the American Christian rock scene, one of the most successful artists in US mega-churches and now one of the most sought-after religious commentators in Britain, knows this too.

There is also no better way to destroy a group of people than to ensure they do the job for you. And so, as Beeching's story pours out on a hot afternoon – a story of psychological torture, life-threatening illness and unimaginable loneliness, imposed all around from a supposedly Godly environment – one question fills the air: if shrinks, brutes and fascists know how best to devastate a person, does the Church of England? Or do they know not what they do?

We meet twice. On the first occasion, Beeching, normally enlivening Radio 4's Thought for the Day or any number of Sunday morning TV discussion programmes, sits opposite me in a café in Soho. She pushes a piece of paper in my direction. It is a précis she has written of her background: of growing up in a conservative Christian household in Kent, first in the Pentecostal Church then in the evangelical branch of the Church of England, of going to Oxford to study theology, of the EMI recording contract that sent her to Nashville 12 years ago and launched a successful singer-songwriting career… and then a line that jars and jolts. I turn the piece of paper over and look up to see her smiling nervously.

"I'm gay," she says, confirming what is written. She has never said this publicly before – a handful of people in her private life know. She has only just told one her closest friends, Katherine, and Katherine's father, Justin Welby, the Archbishop of Canterbury.

The enormity of the political ramifications of this disclosure scarcely have a second to sink in – a theologian who spends holy days with the Archbishop, whose God-fearing lyrics are sung by millions in America's Bible Belt, coming out as a lesbian – before I begin to reflect on the implications for her personally.

She will be liberated. She may well, through her commentating work, become a key figure in the liberalisation of Anglicanism. And she will be crucified. Boycotts of her music are already in place since Beeching decided to speak up for same-sex marriage over a year ago. Hatred has been flung at her online ever since: "You've been deceived by the devil," is a typical, charming comment.

Then, as we begin to talk over these implications, she slides her fringe to one side to reveal a wide, white scar running down the length of her forehead. It is also concealed by make-up. Beeching knows how to cover things up. A week later, she arrives at my flat in east London to tell the story of the scar. It is the story of her life.

As a little girl, Vicky Beeching soon became aware of the attitudes towards homosexuality surrounding her. She learnt of them in Sunday school. "It was in children's picture books about the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah – hailstones of fire raining down on these cities known for the 'abomination' of homosexuality. It was viewed as a terrible evil, the cause of the floods. I don't think that my parents brought it up – it was just a given."

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Voicing her opinion: Vicky Beeching on Sky News

At 12, her feelings towards other girls at school began to deepen. "Realising that I was attracted to them was a horrible feeling," she says, looking down. "I was so embarrassed and ashamed. It became more and more of a struggle because I couldn't tell anyone." As adolescence emerged, with school and Church services several times a week, alienation set in.

"I increasingly began to feel like I was living behind an invisible wall. The inner secrecy of holding that inside was divorcing me from reality – I was living in my own head. Anybody I was in a friendship with, or anything I was doing in the church, was accompanied by an internal mantra: 'What if they knew?' It felt like all of my relationships were built on this ice that would break if I stepped out on to it."

Beeching is cross-legged on a sofa in my living-room, deportment impeccable, done up in a tailored jacket, made up with absolute precision. Her face has a divine, ethereal, bone- structure-to-die-for beauty, like Sharon Stone suppressing her basic instincts. All of this, however, looks different, harrowed, when Beeching describes the attempts to cure her lesbianism. She went to a Catholic priest at 13: a confession to absolve the innate.

"When I said that I had feelings for the same sex he prayed the prayer of absolution, for me to be forgiven. And that was it." Afterwards, her feelings remained, which "only increased the sense of shame. I felt there was something really wrong with me, that maybe I was so sinful and awful I couldn't be healed."

She reached her first breaking point that year. One night alone in her bedroom, still just 13 years old, the schism between feelings and beliefs overcame her.

"I felt like it was ripping me in half. I knew I couldn't carry on. I was trying to align the loving God I knew and believed in with this horrendous reality of what was going on inside me," she says. "I remember kneeling down and absolutely sobbing into the carpet. I said to God, 'You have to either take my life or take this attraction away because I cannot do both.'" Her eyes glisten for the first time.

By 16, the isolation, fear and shame were escalating. Her mother, who is very musical, had taught her to play the piano and guitar, and Beeching was already writing worship songs and performing them at services in front of hundreds. "It was my one outlet." Her first song, called "Search Me O God", contains, tellingly, the line: "Find any way in me that does not reflect Your purity."

That summer, at a Christian youth camp in the English countryside, Beeching became subject to an altogether more extreme way to make her sexuality "pure": an exorcism. I ask her to name which camp it was, which organisation was responsible. "Do I have to say?" she asks, with a half grimace. "It might make them look bad." "Yes, it will," I say. "This happens at a lot of them. It feels a bit mean to pick one," she replies, chiming with an earlier comment: "I'm not angry with the Church."

Instead, she takes herself back to that day. "I remember sitting in my seat at this big conference, with about 4,000 people. Someone had preached about how God could set you free from anything, and I was desperate, I thought, 'I have to deal with this, it's breaking me.' They invited us to the front." The shy teenager got up.

"The walk felt like 10 years. The music was very loud. At the altar one of the prayer team said, 'What would you like us to pray for you about?' I said, 'It's really hard for me to say this but I am attracted to people of the same sex and I've been told God hates that and I'm so ashamed and I need Him to take it away because I can't keep living like this. I'm so sad and depressed, I can't carry on.'"

Beeching stood with her arms outstretched as the leaders brought in extra people to perform the deliverance. "I remember lots of people placing their hands on my shoulders and back and front, praying in tongues really loudly and then shouting things: 'We command Satan to let you go! Cast these devils out of you! We speak to you demon of homosexuality: let her go!' People around me were wailing and screaming. It was really frightening. I was already feeling so vulnerable, it was horrible to think, 'Am I controlled by demons?'" How did it feel? "Degrading," she says. "Very humiliating – it made me so embarrassed." And when this too didn't change her orientation, Beeching turned inwards. "I began to disconnect."

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Vicky Beeching’s story can inspire many conflicted young people (Jason Alden/The Independent)

She spent as much time on her own as possible, pushing friends away at school, filling break times by working in the library alone. "It was too painful to be around people that didn't understand." She became a workaholic. "I felt like there was something so wrong with me, according to the Church, that maybe I could make up for it by getting good grades." On several occasions, Beeching tried to force an attraction to boys, by letting those who asked her out walk her to school, but she felt nothing. Instead, all her energy went in to work: the grades took her to Oxford (where she lived in a Christian halls of residence); at 23, the songwriting took her to Nashville.

For the next six years, Beeching lived in the fire-and-brimstone heart of conservative America, recording albums and touring the country's vast churches. To avoid the desolation of her personal life, Beeching would perform endlessly, ensuring every birthday and public holiday was booked up. Countless unrequited loves for straight female friends compounded the torment of her teenage years. "That was one of the hardest parts – to have your heart crushed so many times you wonder whether it actually has any life left in it," she says, quietly. "It's incredibly painful. I just wanted a soul mate.

By 2008, aged 29, she decided to move to California, hoping that San Diego would provide a more liberal setting. But this was the year that Proposition 8 – the state law to ban same-sex marriage – was to be voted on. The Christian lobby galvanized. And Beeching was being booked to perform at mega-churches throughout California. "I would find myself at these events that were anti-equal-marriage rallies, but I was only booked to sing so there was no way I could say anything. If I had, I would have got kicked out." It didn't help that her contract with the Christian music branch of EMI had a "morality clause", in which "any behaviour deemed to be immoral" would be a breach of contract.

The secrecy, the loneliness, the unerring work at churches hell-bent on attacking her own, erupted the following year. Her body started attacking itself. "I was blow-drying my hair and looked in the mirror and noticed this white line down my forehead." The scar grew and became "really noticeable – inflamed and red". The day she handed in the master tapes for what was to be her last album, she went to the doctor's, expecting to be handed some E45 cream.

"They said, 'You need to sit down. This is really serious. It's an auto-immune disease called linear scleroderma morphea, and a form of the disease called coup de sabre.' It's a degenerative condition where soft tissue turns to scarring. At that point they didn't know if it was just localised or whether it would affect my whole body." In the worst cases, one's whole body can turn to scar tissue, including internal organs. It can cause epilepsy, blackouts, and can kill.

Beeching was told she would need extensive chemotherapy and to expect hair loss, weight gain and exhaustion. She went home to her apartment where she lived alone, and looked up pictures online of sufferers, many of whom lose parts of their face. "I vomited," she says. She flew home as soon as she could. "The doctor here said, 'In our experience there will always be one thing you can name that is a point of stress, of deep trauma in your life, that triggers this.' For me there was no question: it was the stress of my sexuality." In hospital a few weeks later, Beeching made a vow. "I looked at my arm with the chemotherapy needle poking out, I looked at my life, and thought, 'I have to come to terms with who I am.'" She gave herself a goal: to come out by the time she was 35. Thirty-five is half a life," she says, sadly. "I can't lose the other half. I've lost so much living as a shadow of a person."

Beeching had 18 months of gruelling chemotherapy. The exhaustion was so acute that she was forced not to work, and instead, to think, to feel, to gradually accept her sexuality. She has never had a relationship. She didn't meet an out gay person until she was 30. In recovery, Beeching went to visit Ruth Hunt, chief executive of Stonewall, who put her in touch with some out lesbians: the BBC newsreader Jane Hill, sports presenter Clare Balding and her wife, Alice Arnold, the former Radio 4 newsreader. "They said, 'Be yourself and everything will follow.'"

One hopes it is that simple. Before we meet, I hear Beeching is being lined up to be one of the new presenters on Songs of Praise. She refuses to comment either way, instead replying simply that it would be a "dream job".

At Easter this year, she came out to her parents. "I was terrified but they reacted really well. They said, 'We're so sorry that you had to go through this alone.'" Beeching and her parents have agreed to disagree on the theology around homosexuality. "It's a picture of what is possible, even when you don't agree, that love can supersede everything." She hopes the Church of England can one day follow suit. "What Jesus taught was a radical message of welcome and inclusion and love. I feel certain God loves me just the way I am, and I have a huge sense of calling to communicate that to young people. When I think of myself at 13, sobbing into that carpet, I just want to help anyone in that situation to not have to go through what I did, to show that instead, you can be yourself – a person of integrity."

After what Beeching has suffered, why not discard the faith that considers her sinful and wrong?

"It is heartbreaking," she says, her eyes glimmering again. "The Church's teaching was the reason that I lived in so much shame and isolation and pain for all those years. But rather than abandon it and say it's broken, I want to be part of the change."

As Beeching jumps into a waiting taxi, I think of all the young gay Christians who have spoken out over the years, who've told of their loneliness, their depression, the "cures" they sought, the suicides they attempted, and all who might hear Beeching's story and feel less alone, and I whisper under my breath, for them, two words: thank you.

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