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PostPosted: Fri Feb 02, 2007 7:41 pm 
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The mating game: Women play copycat, men look out for rivals

PARIS -- A lonely man desperate to find a girlfriend might be well advised to hire a few women to smile at him -- and let female copycat genes run their course.

British psychologists have discovered that, when sizing up a man, a woman takes her cues from other women around him. If those women are looking happily at him, that has a big influence on the woman's assessment. The more female smiles there are, the likelier she is to consider the guy a catch.

Researchers led by Benedict Jones of the University of Aberdeen, Scotland, recruited 28 young women whose average age was 24. The volunteers first looked at photographs of four young men wearing neutral expressions and looking directly at the camera. The men were shown in pairs, and the women had to judge which of the two was the more attractive, apportioning their preference a score on an eight-point scale.

The same faces were shown again to the volunteers. This time, though, the male faces were flanked by a female face -- a woman, shown in profile, who either looked neutrally at the man or smiled at him. After this, the volunteers took another look at the paired faces, as in the first step of the experiment, and were asked to give another attractiveness rating.

Many of them revised sharply downward their initial grading of the man, by more than 10 percent on average, if his picture had been next to a woman with a neutral expression. But they sharply revised upwards their grading, finding the man more attractive by an average of at least 15 percent, if the woman looking at him had a smile on her face. But the reverse held true for men, the researchers found.

Twenty-eight young men volunteers took part in the same experiment -- and their rating of the likeability of the male faces plummeted if the man was being smiled at by a woman. But if the woman had a neutral look, the rating went up.

The findings tell us a lot about how sexual competition affects our views, the study says. "Desired" men are more attractive to women but conversely more of a threat to other males. Among females in other species, "mate choice copying" has already been spotted among guppies, Japanese quail and zebra finches, but this is the first time the phenomenon has been confirmed empirically among humans.

Evolutionary psychologists say the copycat reflex is the result of Darwinian pressures. If a female faces lots of potential mates but has difficulties in choosing the best one -- or to do so would cost too much time or energy -- she can help herself by taking a steer from how rival females behave.

The paper appeared in Proceedings of the Royal Society B, a journal of the Royal Society, which is Britain's de-facto academy of sciences.

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PostPosted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 11:14 pm 
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The mating game: Women play copycat, men look out for rivals

PARIS -- A lonely man desperate to find a girlfriend might be well advised to hire a few women to smile at him -- and let female copycat genes run their course.


Sounds about right to me, Dragon, if another woman wants a man there's bound to be something worthwhile about him. Unlike men, women don't go for cast-offs!

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Most of the blokes I know wouldn't think twice of hitting on a gal another man didn't want.

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PostPosted: Wed Feb 07, 2007 9:55 pm 
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The mating game: Women play copycat, men look out for rivals


Like duh... of course, if another gal is interested their must be something worthwhile about the guy. That's like Attraction 101.

Did it need a team of MEN and a few million $$$ to figure that out? They coulda asked any woman over 15... LOL.
That's not to say it don't make interesting reading, dragon!
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PostPosted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 9:21 pm 
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Most of the blokes I know wouldn't think twice of hitting on a gal another man didn't want.


Of course not, Sheila. I mean, if she don't want one guy why wouldn't she want another? You gotta try, especially if she's hot, right?
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How would you like it if you were all dolled up and after only 1 dude asked you out nobody else did? You wouldn't, I bet.

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PostPosted: Thu Mar 15, 2007 8:47 am 
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Why Does a Guy Use a Wingman When Picking Up Chicks?

The front guy, aka "chick magnet," always has a wingman at a bar or other night spot. This sidekick appears to offer his services in a selfless manner, helping his friend pick up a girl while he heads home empty handed.

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Males of other animals, such as one tropical bird, also practice the pick-up strategy in the wild.

"Why would two guys try to court a woman when only one of them is going to walk away with the girl?" said Daniel Kruger of the University of Michigan. Turns out the thinking that originates from within their jeans is embedded in their genes.

From an evolutionary standpoint, being alone has negative consequences, and moreso for early humans. "Thousands of years ago, living alone was a very risky situation due to both predators and other human groups," Kruger explained. Nowadays, women are likely to be wary of a loner at a pub. But if he"s with friends, it shows that people like and trust him. In this way, both guys would attract more sultry looks if they pair up.

Perception is everything. How attractive a girl finds a guy could have to do with how he compares with his friend. So the alpha male would benefit by pairing up with a nice yet not too attractive guy to up the chances of winning a girl.

What"s in it for Mr. Wingman? There"s always the chance the beta guy will luck out and attract the girl or one of her friends, and maybe even make his way to alpha status.

"Some day that wingman might be the front man and this other guy in turn will help him out," Kruger said.

source: LiveScience.com

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HotEnough.org Courts Good-Looking People

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TRENTON, N.J. -- Jason Pellegrino (an 8.2 on the attractiveness scale) says the problem with Internet dating services is not enough really hot-looking people. So he and a business partner have created HotEnough.org, a sort of online version of Studio 54, the exclusive '70s disco where gaining admission was a pitiless Darwinian exercise. HotEnough.org is for "fit, good-looking" people.

Prospective members must submit pictures and must be rated an 8 or higher by people already in the club. Once they're in, they are permitted to e-mail other "hotties" for $9.95 a month.

"It's definitely hard to get through that rope, but once you're in, you're in and you're part of the party," Pellegrino said. "But you know there's going to be a lot of people outside waiting."

The 33-year-old Nutley resident said he and his partner, Sean Cohen of Fort Lauderdale, Fla., created the site after concluding that Internet dating sites attract a lot of brave and desperate people, but not particularly attractive ones.

A few months after its launch, membership is just under 1,000, Pellegrino said. In the beginning, only 8 percent of those who applied made the grade, but now about 25 percent of applicants do, he said.

Candidates must send in three pictures, including one full-body shot. Active members rate the pictures online without knowing anything else about the people in them.

"People can say that the site is shallow, they can say it's superficial, but I think we're all a bit superficial when it comes to dating," Pellegrino said.

One of the "hotties" accepted into the club is Jimmy Ziomek, a 29- year-old from New York City who rated an 8.2. Ziomek, who said his job in real estate keeps him from going out much, is 5-foot-11, has blue eyes and light brown hair and goes to the gym four to five times a week.

Using HotEnough.org "saves time and it does the searching for you, narrows it down to the people that you are interested in meeting," he said.

Among those who didn't make the cut was Jeanette Ponder, a 28-year-old Internet blogger from East Orange who considered herself an 8 or 9. She said she applied because she thought it would make a good story.

"I got rated at like 5.7," she said. "When you put yourself out there in any situation, even if it's one which you're not taking seriously, it's going to sting."

But she also reasoned: "You cannot make a relationship by being arm candy."

Like it or not, HotEnough.org operates according to a principle that watchers of the singles scene have long recognized: "People tend to end up with partners who match them in physical attractiveness," said Margaret Clark, a professor of psychology at Yale University.

Pellegrino, whose day job as a project manager for a construction company in Maplewood leaves little time for dating, is 5-foot-10 and 180 pounds, has brown eyes and a bright smile, goes to the gym at least three times a week and gets his stylish haircut touched up every two weeks. He was happy to make it onto his own Web site.

"I see myself more in like the 7.5 range," he said.

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 Post subject: Re: Internet dating
PostPosted: Wed Mar 21, 2007 9:18 pm 
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HotEnough.org Courts Good-Looking People

One of the "hotties" accepted into the club is Jimmy Ziomek, a 29- year-old from New York City who rated an 8.2. Ziomek, who said his job in real estate keeps him from going out much, is 5-foot-11, has blue eyes and light brown hair and goes to the gym four to five times a week.


HAHAHAHA

If this vain dude would spend less time trying to look beautiful at the gym he'd have more time to go out!
I hate these real estate blokes, think they're all that, rude and slippery at the same time. Totally self-absorbed. Get real!

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PostPosted: Fri Mar 23, 2007 9:39 pm 
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Jason Pellegrino: Hot Or Not?

ahhh, the fallout begins courtesy of Jossip.com an influential New York based Celebrity,Media + Manhattan news and gossip blog
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Sick of wading through the uglies in the typical online dating pools? Well, thanks to Jason Pellegrino, those days are over. Pellegrino, 33, was tired of those "butterfaces" and cankle queens dominating traditional matchmaking sites, so he created his own restrictive online dating community, HotEnough.org, dedicated strictly to the genetically advanced—and there's nary an Ugly Betty in sight. Here's how Pellegrino keeps out the pear-shaped plebs and ensures that his clientèle are of the vapid, superficial and "dumb blond" variety:

Those who yearn to mingle with the beautiful people on HotEnough must submit three pictures. One must be a full-length shot to rule out undercover fatties. "There are some girls out there who have a real pretty face but may be on the heavy side. Unfortunately, that's not what we're going for," Pellegrino said.
If you make the cut, current members then get to rate you. You don't have to be a perfect 10, but you must have a total score of eight or hotter to qualify.

You see, the way the site works is, any prospective member of the online community must be deemed "an 8, or hotter" by the majority of pre-existing members.


And yet, Pelegrino's progressive elitism raises a simple, yet obvious question: were he not the founder of HotEnough.org, would he, Pellegrino, have made the cut? Jossip investigates after the jump!


According to this article on CNN.com, Pellegrino himself is ranked at an 8.2 on the "attractiveness scale." But we're inclined to disregard that number, given Pellegrino's position as site creater/maintainer, and his unfettered access to the website's controls. Therefore, we opted to conduct an independent analysis, modeling our critique on Pellegrino's own rating system, and sought to find three photographs of Pellegrino* on which to base our assessment.

But wait? A half-hour internet search reveals only a single, solitary picture.** But why the dearth of photos? Surely HotEnough.com's comely spokesman would be eager to smile for the camera and personally attest to the level of attractiveness expected of dating hopefuls? After seeing the photographic evidence (below) we're not so sure.

Note the dopey smile, receding hairline, shiny forehead and Jay Leno chin on our magnate of hotness. (Not to mention the over-gelled hair, complete absence of neck and dorky pairing of black blazer and red t-shirt). Yep, suddenly Mr. Jason "My left eye is popping out of my face!" Pellegrino isn't exactly looking like the 8.2 he's cracked up to be.

So what's really going on here? Why is the one, unattractive photo of Pellegrino the only existing testament to his "good" looks? Is he really an 8.2 or has he been abusing his executive powers? And assuming he's not the adonis he claims to be, does that further impede HotEnough.org's already shaky credibility?

If you have an opinion as to Pellegrino's overall attractiveness, a membership to the illustrious HotEnough.org or the inside scoop on any of its members we want to hear from you.

* One being the obligatory "full body" shot, of course!

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PostPosted: Sat Mar 31, 2007 11:11 am 
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dragon wrote:
Why Does a Guy Use a Wingman When Picking Up Chicks?


I'd say it's a pretty good strategy to go out with a buddy. Chances are much higher one of you will get lucky, if not both. A mate of mine used to say "with your good looks and my big mouth we're never going home alone." And he was right most of the time.

But girls do the same, they hardly ever go out alone, usually they're in groups of 2 or 3 or more. For added selection as well as protection it makes sense.


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 Post subject: We only date ugly men
PostPosted: Tue May 22, 2007 4:46 pm 
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We only date ugly men

May 22, 2007

MEET the women who find rippling muscles and chiselled good looks a complete turn-off.

Slicking on another layer of lipgloss, Selena Maria slings her bag over her shoulder and struts into the bar.

A sea of dark, handsome heads turn to ogle her. Jaws drop and good-looking men raise their eyebrows or move in to offer her a drink.

But Selena walks on by. She only has eyes for one man. He"s waiting for her in a dark corner. He"s not one of the handsome guys in sharp suits. He"s not even "average".

He"s bald and podgy, with a pock-marked face, and is easily the ugliest man in the room. She sidles into the chair next to him.

"Hi, gorgeous," she purrs. The man"s gargoyle face breaks into a toothless smile.

The good-looking men know they don"t stand a chance.

Selena has dated her fair share of hunks, but has given up on gorgeous guys because they"re dull — both in and out of bed.

"I can"t imagine anything more boring than classic handsome looks," she says. "I prefer no teeth, baldness and piercings to model looks. I like celebs such as Adrien Brody and Mackenzie Crook rather than Brad Pitt.

"Ugly men try harder. They care more about you and treat you like a princess. Good-looking guys are self-obsessed. That"s not attractive."

And Selena is not alone. In a recent study, sociologist Diane Felmee found only a third of women said looks were the first thing that attracted them to a man. Most preferred a sense of humour or financial and career success.

Researchers at Newcastle University also believe ugly men exist as a way of repairing our gene pool. Women would rather date men with good genes, who can fight disease easily, than a classically beautiful man.

So are good looks really that important? Love It! found three women who definitely don"t think so.

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Vanessa ... loves Colin's looks

'Good-looking men are just boring!'

Mum-of-one and model Vanessa Upton, 28, from Southeast London, has been living with Colin Kane, 34, a boxer and car renovator, for four years.

I lay back in my bikini, arched my back and stuck out my breasts to strike an alluring pose. Then click!

"That"s beautiful," the photographer cried. "You look absolutely gorgeous."

As a glamour model, I was used to hearing those words every day. For 13 years, I"ve been constantly surrounded by hot-looking men, too.

People always assumed I"d end up with a gorgeous male model on my arm. But looks alone weren"t enough for me. Most of the male models just didn"t turn me on.

I wanted something more. And then I met Colin. I was working as a ring-card girl at a boxing match.

As I strutted around the ring in a little bikini with a giant card telling everyone what round was next, I couldn"t take my eyes off Colin.

He was a cornerman and looked after one of the boxers in the fight. He had a shaved head, a broken nose — and electric-blue eyes.

And when those eyes met mine, I felt the most incredible sexual charge flash between us.

I couldn"t believe my luck when he stripped down to a pair of shorts. He was taut and toned.

"Phwoarr!" I thought. "He"s just my type." I wanted to rip his clothes off right there and then.

I"ve never been attracted to smooth-looking men.

I"m surrounded by male models at work, and while they"re often lovely guys, the chisel-jawed Italian-stallion look makes me cringe.

They are so very ordinary. I like a man who looks different — intriguing, with something to offer on the inside.

And there"s something about blokes with bald heads that drives me really crazy — especially if they can make me laugh, too.


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Happy family ... Vanessa, James and Colin

Colin made me giggle from the second he came over to chat me up that night. He"d heard I had a bad back.

"How do you fancy a massage?" he said with a cheeky grin. "I"m a sports therapist."

I turned down his offer, but I took his number and couldn"t stop thinking about him for the next two weeks.

Finally, I plucked up the courage to phone him and asked: "Can I have that massage now?"

We met up and he massaged me for two and a half hours, and I realised that no matter how anyone thought he looked, Colin was brilliant with his hands.

Our next meeting was a proper date and we couldn"t keep our hands off each other.

Four years later, we still can"t — and I feel so lucky to have found a bloke who makes me feel this way, every day.

A few of my model friends have taken me to one side and asked: "Why are you with him? What do you see in him?"

But I really don"t know what they"re talking about. In my eyes, he"s drop-dead gorgeous. He"s my perfect man.

My five-year-old son, James, absolutely loves him. I want to have children with Colin. I"m sure they"d be just as adorable as he is.

Besides, once the bedroom lights go out, it"s down to sexual skill and personality — and my Colin has tons of both.


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Inesa ... loves Barrington's unusual face

"He"s not old and ugly — he"s God"s gift"

Artist Inesa Vaiciute, 25, can"t get enough of Barrington, her wrinkly lover.

I was on a train when I spotted a man with long, straggly hair and a very unusual face.

Barrington"s looks intrigued me and we got talking. He told me he worked as an artist and I assumed he was in his late forties.

There was something about him. We chatted for the rest of the journey and I was increasingly drawn to him.

He was no George Clooney — he looked unkempt and had a huge hooked nose, but there was something about his eyes that drew me in.

We swapped email addresses and kept in touch. Months later, we went on our first date. We ended up going to a castle and staying there together for two weeks.

He told me he was actually 63 years old!

Yes, he"s 38 years older me, but he has so much energy, I have trouble keeping up. My nickname for him is "my baby".

We do get strange looks in the street, but I couldn"t care less. I don"t see him as an old, ugly man — to me, he"s God"s gift.

Before him, I dated men my own age. But they felt threatened by my creativity and the attention I attracted.

Barrington doesn"t get jealous or insecure. In fact, he feels proud when I get chatted up. He"s the first guy I"ve felt totally comfortable with. We"re both artists and share the same passions.

Our sex life is fantastic. We make love every day. Barrington"s age is a plus there, too. He has years of experience in the sack.

When we"re out, I see women gawping at him. But I don"t think they"re staring because he"s ugly.

I reckon they"re checking him out. I bet they"d secretly love to run their fingers through his mane of hair. I know they"re jealous of my gorgeous boyfriend.

I think people today are too obsessed by perfect, model looks. But that"s just boring. Barrington"s long hair and unusual face make me weaker at the knees than any pretty boy soap star or model.

I feel privileged to be with Barrington. He"s the soulmate I"ve been searching for.

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PostPosted: Mon Jun 18, 2007 2:20 pm 
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The idea of dating "ugly" men is not uncommon. Generally, in India, it is accepted and encouraged to find a man with a good position in life and if he is also good-looking all the better but it is not the primary factor for a good match. This is why we have a tradition of arranged marriages because it is designed to improve both families their standing in society.

It is not an illogical development as many Western people seem to think. We are a country of many people and there is always a struggle for material security. Arranging a marriage is very much a product of this struggle as it strives to bring about more security for both people. Unfortunately, because men are much higher valued than women there is also a serious imbalance in this tradition, which is why even parents of higher status prefer to have sons rather than daughters because it is the girl's parents that must provide for the dowry. And if the parents are well off or wealthy a man stands a good chance of extracting a very high price for this girl if her parents want to marry her to someone of good standing.

Personally, I find the Western idea of marrying out of love for one another appealing and yet undesirable at the same time. The idea of a romantic marriage holds more attraction than one based on family and strategic value from a personal point of view, but if one considers marriage to be the first step to a mutual future and that of future generations, it makes more sense to arrange a marriage where this future has more of a chance to become reality.

And from what I understand Western parents are just as discriminating in accepting or approving a spouse for their child as we are. The big difference is that once the child has reached a legal age she or he can marry as they please. But this still does not guarantee acceptance or reconciliation by the prospective families but often causes serious conflicts between the two instead.


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the thing is, both men they showed here, are essentially attractive - the first one being toned and well-trained, the second one being rugged-hippie-like. what if the would show fat, balding, red-faced guys ? i'm very much in favour of personality over looks, i've met many wonderful men in my life who weren't "classic beauties" but still, this article is a bit...well,, not exactly on topic.


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10 Compliments That Wow a Man

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From an early age, men get hammered with the same message about how to treat women: More compliments, more listening, more romance. That's all well and good, as it should be. But sometimes, especially as relationships progress, men can also feel on the short-end of the fawning stick: Nearly 70 percent of men say they wish they received more regular compliments from their partner. I'm not suggesting that every guy has to be coddled and cuddled with verbal roses, but every once in a while, it's nice to throw one his way. While guys aren't particularly amped by compliments like "nice eyes" or "you're so beautiful," there are a few, simple things a woman can say to a man that really get him going. To wit:


"Your arms are definitely looking bigger."

Men can be just as paranoid about the way their bodies look as women can be. In fact, nearly 90 percent of men in a national Men, Love & Sex survey say there's at least one body part they'd like to change (42 percent saying they want a new gut). While men don't necessarily want women to lie if they're out of shape, it never hurts to notice he's looking good -- or at least trying to look better.


"Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha."

Guys spend all of high school, the better part of the work day, and at least 12 times a day via e-mail trying to make people laugh. Because men value their sense of humor as one of their most important qualities, a hearty, genuine laugh is as flattering as it gets.


"Wow."

Doesn't matter whether it comes as he's getting undressed or after you've finished having sex, this short, sweet word (best done in a whisper) may just be the ultimate ego-stroke. A picture may say a thousand words, but this three-letter word sums up roughly 10,000 of them.

"You the man."

Guys hear this all the time. From other guys. They hear it at work, on the golf course, and when one dude from the group buys the beer. But if it comes from a woman -- no matter the context -- the message is that, hey, we're buddies, too. Which is actually pretty darn sexy.

"The kids just adore you."

More than 50 percent of men say that their families -- more so than work and salary -- are what defines them most as men. So when a woman affirms that he's a familial hero, it's a compliment that stretches way beyond anything you could ever say about his haircut.


"What do you think?"

We've all seen it a million times with long-married couples: They engage in cerebral power struggles, where neither can concede on anything -- whether it's the best way to move a piece of furniture or the fastest way to reach the interstate. I'm not saying that men should have the only say in decisions, but some guys do feel like they actually have very little.


"Cute feet."

Typically, it doesn't matter much to men if women like a part of their body that they don't control, like their eyes, jawline, or body hair. And typically, guys care for the word "cute" about as much as Paris cares for the penal system. One exception: The part of the body that is classified as being especially gross. Tell a guy he has good feet, and somehow he takes it as a double-bagger compliment -- that you not only like his genetics, but also that you appreciate he can keep himself better groomed than the rest of the gnarly-nailed heathens out there.


"Meow."

The stats show that 61 percent of men think their partners aren't sexually adventurous enough. While a feline one-liner doesn't automatically qualify as adventurous, it does show a bit of inhibition, and the message is one he likes to hear: That perhaps he's brought a little bit of the animal out of you.


"Impressive."

Guys love feats. They love accomplishments. They love being acknowledged for their strength, power, and, simply, their masculinity. So a well-timed observation like this one -- whether it comes after he carries a TV to the family room or figures out a way to fix the pipes without having to call the plumber -- feeds into his need to feel like the family protector.


"I want you."

Women don't need to go on about a guy's eyes or hair or clothes. What a guy really wants to hear is that he's the total package, and this acknowledgement of that -- whether it's referring to bedroom behavior or relationship stability -- is the ultimate compliment of them all.

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Mating game: Why men go for younger women

PARIS -- Scientists say they have carried out the first study that confirms that evolutionary pressure -- the drive to have more children, in short -- is what causes the typical age gap among couples.

Researchers explored the theory that men go for younger, sexually attractive women in order to boost their chances of reproductive success, while women prefer older, successful men to provide the resources and security that increase their offspring's chance of survival.

The investigators trawled through a Swedish population database, covering 11,500 men and women born between 1945 and 1955, to see at what age these individuals became parents.

Among couples who stayed together, the most children were born in households where there was an age difference of four to six years.

When couples split up and mated again, they each opted for partners who were younger than the first.

That was especially so for older men, who went for women who were much younger. Women looking for a new mate generally chose a male who was slightly older than herself.

"The age preference for the partner increases [the] individual [reproductive] fitness of both men and women," say the authors, who speculate that this trait has been acquired through millennia of evolution.

The study, which appears in the British journal Biology Letters, is written by Martin Fieder, an anthropologist at the University of Vienna, and Susanne Huber, a wildlife ecologist at the University of Veterinary Medicine Vienna.

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Why kissing means more to women

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Men and women view kissing differently

If a picture is worth a 1,000 words, so may be a kiss - or certainly to a woman anyway, researchers say.

A New York State University team quizzed over 1,000 students, finding women place a big emphasis on kissing.

They use kissing as a way of assessing the recipient as a potential partner, and later to maintain intimacy and to check the status of a relationship.

But men placed less importance on it, using it to increase the likelihood of sex, Evolutionary Psychology reported.

The questionnaires revealed men were less discriminating when it came to deciding who to kiss or who to have sex with.

They were more willing to have sex with someone without kissing, to have sex with someone they are not attracted to and agree to have sex with someone they considered to be a bad kisser.

But kissing was more important as a bonding mechanism to women.

In long-term relationships females not only rate kissing as more important than men, but they indicated that kissing was important throughout a relationship.

Meanwhile, men placed less importance on kissing as the relationship progresses.

There was also a difference in the sort of kisses the two sexes preferred, with men liking wet, tongue kisses.

Lead researcher Dr Gordon Gallup said kissing had developed over time to become an essential part of the courtship process.

But he added: "While both sexes participate in the adaptive benefits of kissing, we found sex differences when considering the pursuit of short- versus long-term mating strategies."

Dr Glenn Wilson, an expert in relationships at London's Institute of Psychiatry, said: "Kissing is used by everyone as a bonding and testing mechanism.

"But the fact is women are more discriminatory than men. Men can just go out and spread their seed, but women have to take more responsibility because of the consequences and so they are likely to want to test more."

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